The word I want to point out in this week's topic title is DISTANCE. Are you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance,etc.willing to go the DISTANCE emotionally & physically? Does it depend on how far the DISTANCE is? "Are we talking hop in the whip and drive about 2-5hrs" or more like "different timezones" type DISTANCE"? The amount of time,money and effort it would take to see your "boo" will definitely make "making it work" hard to say the least.
I can relate, my "California Cutie"(yeah that's his nickname) lives in San Diego. I met him locally and we "clicked" and could "see" ourselves dating each other but,(I wish there wasn't a "but") it was just too far. It used to be "OK" when he first left but then it got , and I hate to say this, boring and frustrating. Staying up late to "cake" on the phone just wasn't feasible anymore. I had to work and needed my rest. I wanted/needed to see him, plain and simple. We slowly became disconnected with whatever we were or could have been. Maybe, it could have worked if we were willing to compromise or invest a little more. However, the intimacy we used to experience (as in current emotion) became a feeling we had experienced (as in a past emotion) You may have had an "it coulda, woulda but it didn't and I'll never do it again, long distance relationship situation too. If you did, what were some of the reasons that it didn't work?
Here's a list of the TOP 5 REASONS why long distance relationships "usually" don't work. (according to relationshiptalk.net)
P.S.A. If you can't handle at least or more than 2/5 on this list PLEASE don't try (save yourself and the person your involved with PLEASE (#imjustsaying)
1. No kissing, no cuddling, no holding hands, and of course no sex. (ouch)
2. One of you will meet someone else (true, they're local,and tangible)
3. No true trust. (hmm. more freedom to LIE about ANYTHING)
4. It is expensive to keep flying or driving to see someone in a long distance relationship. (Blame it on the recession!!)
5. Soon there is nothing more to talk about anymore in phone conversations other than saying I miss you to each other. (Those words can become redundant without plans to see each other)
I couldn't end this with out giving you tips on how to make a long distant relationship work, so here's a link for a few ideas and advice. http://hubpages.com/hub/5-Long-Distance-Relationship-Ideas-You-Dont-Want-to-Miss-These
After reading that list, those reasons described my situation to a "T". The ideas hubpages.com gave could have been useful too but hey, you live and you learn. Did you see any familiarity in your situation?
At the end of the day, only you can answer the question CAN THEY WORK?. I will say (and maybe you can agree) the only way for "it" to work, is if the both of you are equally dedicated to the relationship.
What are your thoughts? I'd love to know, so please feel free to comment below....
I can relate, my "California Cutie"(yeah that's his nickname) lives in San Diego. I met him locally and we "clicked" and could "see" ourselves dating each other but,(I wish there wasn't a "but") it was just too far. It used to be "OK" when he first left but then it got , and I hate to say this, boring and frustrating. Staying up late to "cake" on the phone just wasn't feasible anymore. I had to work and needed my rest. I wanted/needed to see him, plain and simple. We slowly became disconnected with whatever we were or could have been. Maybe, it could have worked if we were willing to compromise or invest a little more. However, the intimacy we used to experience (as in current emotion) became a feeling we had experienced (as in a past emotion) You may have had an "it coulda, woulda but it didn't and I'll never do it again, long distance relationship situation too. If you did, what were some of the reasons that it didn't work?
Here's a list of the TOP 5 REASONS why long distance relationships "usually" don't work. (according to relationshiptalk.net)
P.S.A. If you can't handle at least or more than 2/5 on this list PLEASE don't try (save yourself and the person your involved with PLEASE (#imjustsaying)
1. No kissing, no cuddling, no holding hands, and of course no sex. (ouch)
2. One of you will meet someone else (true, they're local,and tangible)
3. No true trust. (hmm. more freedom to LIE about ANYTHING)
4. It is expensive to keep flying or driving to see someone in a long distance relationship. (Blame it on the recession!!)
5. Soon there is nothing more to talk about anymore in phone conversations other than saying I miss you to each other. (Those words can become redundant without plans to see each other)
I couldn't end this with out giving you tips on how to make a long distant relationship work, so here's a link for a few ideas and advice. http://hubpages.com/hub/5-Long-Distance-Relationship-Ideas-You-Dont-Want-to-Miss-These
After reading that list, those reasons described my situation to a "T". The ideas hubpages.com gave could have been useful too but hey, you live and you learn. Did you see any familiarity in your situation?
At the end of the day, only you can answer the question CAN THEY WORK?. I will say (and maybe you can agree) the only way for "it" to work, is if the both of you are equally dedicated to the relationship.
What are your thoughts? I'd love to know, so please feel free to comment below....
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