Poetically Yours,"Valentines Day" Words

Whether you acknowledge me or not, I still exist

a painful reminder of what is or your romantic bliss

I am the birthday of love, romantically embraced by those who know me

labeled as being a man made invention, my purpose is to the relay your hearts purest intentions

to the ones with your commitment or attention

I am the expression of your emotions, the gifts and pleasures to your devoted

I am the voice of the most impressionable words, that LOVE to be heard

I am VALENTINES DAY you control my meaning, should you choose to observe...


** Whatever your experiences were that shaped your feelings towards the holiday, remember, like any other day, it is what you make it**

I want to hear your thoughts about the day..What does it mean for you and how did you spend it? Comment how you want, about what you want....

PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND!!???!?!?!??

Sooooooo, no Jordan's this time? i mean i guess a hiking boot with a heel WOULD do you some justice -________-

i want to know what this designer was thinking hmmmmm... maybe "if i put a heel on it, when thier hiking maybe they can grip the rocks better" OR, "HEY! what shoe would look worse than a Jordan with a heel? I GOT IT! a damn hiking boot.

Long Distance Relationships..Can they work?

The word I want to point out in this week's topic title is DISTANCE. Are you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance,etc.willing to go the DISTANCE emotionally & physically? Does it depend on how far the DISTANCE is? "Are we talking hop in the whip and drive about 2-5hrs" or more like "different timezones" type DISTANCE"? The amount of time,money and effort it would take to see your "boo" will definitely make "making it work" hard to say the least.

I can relate, my "California Cutie"(yeah that's his nickname) lives in San Diego. I met him locally and we "clicked" and could "see" ourselves dating each other but,(I wish there wasn't a "but") it was just too far. It used to be "OK" when he first left but then it got , and I hate to say this, boring and frustrating. Staying up late to "cake" on the phone just wasn't feasible anymore. I had to work and needed my rest. I wanted/needed to see him, plain and simple. We slowly became disconnected with whatever we were or could have been. Maybe, it could have worked if we were willing to compromise or invest a little more. However, the intimacy we used to experience (as in current emotion) became a feeling we had experienced (as in a past emotion) You may have had an "it coulda, woulda but it didn't and I'll never do it again, long distance relationship situation too. If you did, what were some of the reasons that it didn't work?

Here's a list of the TOP 5 REASONS why long distance relationships "usually" don't work. (according to relationshiptalk.net)

P.S.A. If you can't handle at least or more than 2/5 on this list PLEASE don't try (save yourself and the person your involved with PLEASE (#imjustsaying)


1. No kissing, no cuddling, no holding hands, and of course no sex. (ouch)


2. One of you will meet someone else (true, they're local,and tangible)


3. No true trust. (hmm. more freedom to LIE about ANYTHING)


4. It is expensive to keep flying or driving to see someone in a long distance relationship. (Blame it on the recession!!)


5. Soon there is nothing more to talk about anymore in phone conversations other than saying I miss you to each other. (Those words can become redundant without plans to see each other)

I couldn't end this with out giving you tips on how to make a long distant relationship work, so here's a link for a few ideas and advice. http://hubpages.com/hub/5-Long-Distance-Relationship-Ideas-You-Dont-Want-to-Miss-These


After reading that list, those reasons described my situation to a "T". The ideas hubpages.com gave could have been useful too but hey, you live and you learn. Did you see any familiarity in your situation?

At the end of the day, only you can answer the question CAN THEY WORK?. I will say (and maybe you can agree) the only way for "it" to work, is if the both of you are equally dedicated to the relationship.

What are your thoughts? I'd love to know, so please feel free to comment below....

"Beam Me Up Scotty" - Interview with NC artist - Brey Quick

1. Your latest song is: My latest song is a track called "You Live and You Learn" Basically about everyday situations in my life. Real life situations, that taught me very valuable lessons. 

2. How does this song describe you as an artist? I only write about things that really to me. So to answer your question. The song is ME. I like to keep it as real as possible. So the song shows you a few different sides of me. 

3. How long have you been in the music business? I still don't consider myself in the music business yet. Not until Im wanted by a few major labels. On the other hand, I have been rapping, and writing since I was about 11. I didn't take it serious until Jan. 2010. 

4.When did you realize you wanted to be a music artist? January 2010 I felt like I had the talent. So now Im just trying to showcase it. 

5. Where do you see yourself in the long run? In the long run I see myself respected in the music business, taken seriously as a producer and artists, and eating! And by that I mean delicious foods and dead presidents. 

6. If you could describe your music in one word, what would it be? Versatile.

7. Who is your inspiratio? Why? I don't have a WHO inspiration right now. My inspiration is not so much a person. it could range from a variety of things. From Visual Art to Fashion to 90s Grunge rock. 

 

8.  Who do you want to collab with one day? One day I would love to collab with Andre 3 Stacks. Hes so versatile, I think we could do some damage. 

9. Besides music, what other ventures are you working on? Right now Im about to start getting back in to Art. Painting Mostly. I majored in Studio Art in college. I have been drawing and painting since I could hold a pen. Also, maybe a little clothing design. I got a nice eye for fashion. 

10. Where are you from? Where did yu grow up? Is this displayed in your music? Im from High Point, NC. I grew up in High Point, NC and Lakeview, SC. Its def shown in my music. My southern accent is obvious and you can hear me upping HIGH POINT every chance I get. The place raised me. 

11.Do you have a particular saying that identifies you?  SkyedUP (Sky-ed Up) I heard people saying Ski-ed Up Like they have their nose in the snow or something. SkyedUP represents Truth, Loyalty, Honor, Respect, and a few other things... 

12. Who are you working with and what are you doing to become a signed artist with a national label? Right now im working with 2 other members on the SkyedUP Team (WhiteMic, Tim Lawrence, and Colby) also Elevate Music Group artists Reem Dollaa, Reefa Legrande, Classical The Great, Jacori, Steele, to name a few and many other artists literally all over the world. 

13. If you weren't an artist, what else would you be doing? Well Ive played sports my whole life. Particularly basketball. I received a full 4 year scholarship to Division 1 school High Point University, graduated and Played 2 season Pro in Iceland. That being said... Basketball. I REALLY got game, if you trying to step on the court. I played PG/SG. We do numbers over here haha

14.Who is your target audience? When you write, who do you have in mind? My target audience would def be from 18-35. Maybe even 40. My fans range from Freshmen in college to 40 year old parents. When I write, Im targeting anyone who is old enough to have real life happiness and issues. 

15. Where can justTovi.com readers/viewers find more of your work?You can find more of my work, right now here: www.Soundcloud.com/BreyQuick -- www.Facebook.com/BreyQuick -- www.Twitter.com/BreyQuick -- www.Myspace.com/BreyQuick

 

Brey Quick's Latest Video to "Beam Me Up Scotty" can be found at justTovi.com.

 

*SPECIAL THANK YOU TO BREY QUICK FOR TAKING THE TIME TO INTERVIEW WITH JUSTTOVI.COM. LOTS OF LUCK AND MUCH SUCCESS TO YOU.  

Wearing Lace Fronts/ Weave EVERYDAY

Now, on to the worst part of NOT wearing your natural hair every so often... you may experience hair loss or even baldness. If you wear them EVERYDAY your scalp will look like Naomi Campbell's and a few other celebrities, but i mean if you dont mind having beadie beads crawling on your side burns and down your neck then HEY! do you boo boo. BOTTOM LINE: LET YOUR SCALP BREATHE!! #okbye

Lace Front Wigs

- ugh! ok... look ladies, i understand everyone was not blessed with the best grade of hair, or the longest hair you desire BUT that does NOT mean Lace Fronts are the answer!

ONLY because you are not getting them professionally done. Instead you jus slap da wig on ya head, OOOPS! i meant FOREhead. seriously tho... What's the purpose of a lace front? Shouldn't it look real?

- First off: Slicking your "baby hair" down on the sides DOES NOT make anyone believe the lace front is yours, anymore than we believe Tommy from Martin really had a job. I mean come on they are two different textures. If i can tell it isn't your hair a mile away NEWS FLASH! you have defeated your purpose.

Unil I Say "I Do"...Im Single...

Until I say "I do", I'm single. But how single? Am I single when it benefits me? Am I single because "technically" we haven't made it official although we act like were "together"? Or Maybe you're single because "if he liked it then he shoulda put a ring on it" but he hasn't and theres been no talk of a trip to Jared's. Fellas are "single for the night" like Lil Wayne because "what she don't know won't hurt her".

The list goes on, making monogamy in the dating game to seem non-existent and even more so during the "talking" stage of a relationship. The term single has been heavily used for convenience, in our generation, labeling main prospects as "wifey" or the "hubby" giving false sense of title and relational duties.

It always seems as though one party is totally committed to the "what can be", while the other is committed to the well..."what it is right now". Now, Im not saying either party is wrong in their interpretation of what the relationship is, especially when it hasnt been discussed. However, to avoid one from thinking the other is "wrong", conversation on the gray areas has to happen. The picture of what the relationship is or isnt would be so much clearer if we actually communicated with each other. The lack of communcitaion has got us walking around in non-commited situations with an assumed basis of boundaries and expectations for relationships. Im sure youre familar with the saying of "when you assume you make an-->ASS/u/Me" exactly, you said it right.

With that being said, one of the main misconceptions about men/women when it comes to the "I'm dating around,and exploring my options" scenario. Society has planted the thought that its acceptable for men to have options and explore them in every avenue possible (especially sex) but not as much with women. Its automatically again "ASSumed" that a female is "loose" or sleeping around with everyman just because she's made it known that she's "seeing other people". The thought that maybe she's not sexually involved with anyone outside of commitment is rarely entertained. Yet, its just accepted and understood that if a man says hes "seeing other people" sex is a package deal with the process. Whether or not he is or isn't doesn't seem to have the same effect on "his" image as it would "hers". Who are we to judge what "seeing other people" really entails in someones' journey to finding the right one. After all, because he/she is "single" are they not entitled to do what/who they want to do,see who they want to see or go where he/she wants to go? I'm sure there's plenty of accusations we can make for whats "okay" for the single sexes to do and argue them, but that's another post.

Now, yes, for those"technically no" people out there until we say, "we do" we are single when filing taxes even if your in a relationship, but do you govern the social aspects of your life by the government or your W2's? I doubt you do.

With that being said, whether you're completely committed to someone, emotionally single and physically committed or "vice versa" pick one. Make you're stance known especially to the ones who cross your path with an interest in "getting to know" you. Those in a situation where you're not sure what the situation is, talk, get answers and make a decision. Should the outcome be a relationship or the "idea" of one with each other take it seriously.

I leave you with this. Until you say "I do" do you, but keep in mind that, whatever your "doing you" is, can both positively/negatively impact those wanting to be with you, the ones that were and the ones you may influence.

Introducing justTovi.com - Credits

    justTovi.com is a result of my twitter @jusTovi brought to life. Reading my timeline, you are quick to learn that I'm liable to say anything. I'm the one who usually tweets before thinking. I quickly gained followers based on the realness of my tweets. Tweeting anything from having commentary about a Lifetime movie, disciplining the kids or watching a great sports game makes following me on twitter worth your while. I remember tweeting once "One day, justTovi is going to be a household name" and I intend on making that tweet come true.
    Continue to follow along with @justTovi on twitter and become a regular site visitor of justTovi.com. On justTovi.com, you can listen to celebrity interviews, watch Vlogging with Tovi ( a biweekly show that brings real people together to talk about real life issues), read up on the latest fashion trends, hear the hottest new NC artist, get advice or find out who is having the hottest parties that week (purchase your tickets and come back after the event and post your review of that party). justTovi.com is a site made with everyone in mind. I want everyone to see the Triad as I see the Triad, one of the best places to live.


    Many thanks to all that have chosen to take part in justTovi.com. The website came about after having numerous requests from twitter followers, friends and associates who follow me @justTovi. My wacky personality, my crazy comments and the ability to make and keep followers inspired me to take my twitter to that next level. Come along the journey with me and the people who are helping to make my dream possible.

    Thank you to God for allowing me the chance to use my talents as He sees fit. Being a Leo is a quest of it's own and He is guiding me along the path that I should be on.

    Thank you to my mother, my sisters and my daughters. The 5 women in my life that make me want to do more, be more and achieve more.

    Thank you to the staff of Elevate Marketing, especially to Mike Clark, CEO of Elevate, he saw something in me and has helped push me to reach my full potential. 2011 is definitely our year and I am saying thank you for allowing me to be a part of our dream.